Tag: psychology

How to Achieve Goals

It is very easy to set goals and create a schedule. Anyone can say I’m going to lose 20 pounds. Anyone can say I’m going to study for 12 hours per day. Anyone can say I’m only going to use my phone for 30 minutes per day. However, only few of those people can actually achieve those goals.

Achieving goals can be defined with two words: motivation and passion. Without true passion or motivation, it is impossible to succeed. Failure to carry out a task demonstrates the lack of passion and dedication; it is not worth the struggle to fulfill his or her desire.

First, it is crucial to know the exact reasons why the goal needs to be met. Without a clear reason, humans will naturally lose the will to work for it. After coming up with reasons and building up a true passion, the only factor needed is motivation.

Motivation can be formed in two different ways, based on the person. One way is by picturing the moment when the goal is achieved. When facing hardships, imagining the moment of achieving the goal should push the person and help them work harder.

Another way is by picturing the moment if the goal is not reached. That feeling of devastation and misery can motivate a person to push him or herself harder to avoid that situation.

Tips on improving mental health (coming from a Junior in High School)

Remove toxic people from your life

I personally had a hard time coping with stress because I was not only stressed about my classes, but also the relationship with my friends. Even if some people were hurting me mentally, I kept them by my side and tried to be considerate no matter what. I was being considerate to people who did not bother to be considerate to me. This caused my self-esteem and confidence to deteriorate greatly. After I removed those people from my life and kept distance between myself and them, I feel much greater and happier overall. I now find joy in the smallest of events and enjoy life.

Stop comparing yourself with others

Especially in high school, it is easy to compare my life with others’ lives. However, I learned that there is no one living an easy life. Just as no one will exactly understand what is going on in my life, I would not be able to understand other people’s lives so I shouldn’t automatically assume that my life is so much harder than others’. No one wants to show off the hardships that they are facing, which is why it may seem like their lives are perfect, whereas in reality, they could be going through the hardest of times. This leads onto the next point which is to

Take Social Media breaks

Everyone has different sides to them; sides that they are willing to show and sides that they want to hide. Everything that goes on social media are just the happy moments of life. However, it is easy to be convinced that people are living their best lives just by looking at their posts. This could lead us to compare our lives with others, not considering the amount of hardships the others face behind the scenes. Yes, social media can be addictive and hard to delete. However, it is a great help to the mental health deleting it for a short period of time once in a while.

Have some alone time

Yes, being outside socializing is always fun. Feeling like you’re a part of something greater is always even better. However, there always needs to be a time where we take a time to reflect on ourselves and who we are. Before meeting new people, having a clear idea of who we are and learning to love ourselves is crucial. Otherwise, it is easy to feel lost and go through an existential crisis when meeting people. Always make sure to take a time to heal before making plans with people because no matter what, nothing is bound to be perfect and if we do not have a strong foundation before we face the problems, it is easy to be taken aback.